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Becoming the Person Who Can Hold It All
It sounds like I’ll probably be teaching an ESL course starting in January. When I say that out loud, it feels both exciting and humbling, like a door quietly opening into the next chapter of my life. I’m nervous, of course. Not because I doubt my ability, but because I know how much balance this Continue reading
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Life, Lately
I keep thinking about how I thought life would be. When I was a kid, I imagined this perfect sparkling version of adulthood. I would be a world famous musician, performing in beautiful concert halls wearing gowns that shimmered under the lights. I’d have this brilliantly talented musician husband and together we’d travel the world Continue reading
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In with the good, out with the bad
Last night, I had a massage with James. His hands are healing. Wow. I feel so much calmer this morning. Centered. Grounded. Ready for a day of just being home, reflecting, and breathing. A female colleague asked me recently, “What truly sets your soul on fire?” That question hasn’t left me alone. It made me Continue reading
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Dear Infj,
You give. You give everything. Your heart, your time, your energy, your attention – and yet, so often, it feels like the world doesn’t see you. You pour yourself into others, believing in connection, in goodness, in the possibility of shared understanding. But instead, you find yourself misunderstood, overlooked, and sometimes even used. Lauren Sapala Continue reading
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Letting Go: The Hardest Donation I’ve Ever Made
Today I took an enormous carload (literally packed from floor to ceiling ) of clothes to charity. I know it probably sounds simple, but it was honestly one of the hardest things I’ve done in a really long time. Handing over those bags felt like letting go of pieces of myself. And now, I’ll be Continue reading
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The Great Closet Purge

I decided to completely annihilate my wardrobe. Like, everything came out. Every hanger. Every bin. Every drawer. My living room is basically a fabric apocalypse right now. We’re talking over twenty years of clothes. Some of it belonged to my mom but most of it’s mine and they represent my moods, my body changes, and Continue reading
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The 4 INFJ Subtypes
What an interesting video. I can relate to The Oracle, The Empath, and The Perfectionist versions of the INFJ. Continue reading
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Freedom!
Sometimes you need to let loose and dance! Continue reading
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Dust
They glitter loud in the daylight, their names echo in crowded rooms, their hands collect applause like coins. They live in the sun where eyes always follow, where the air is thick with wanting. And me? I drift like a speck unseen, quiet as ash, soft as twilight, no spotlight to pin me down. But Continue reading
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A New Era
I have decided to end one sided relationships. I will no longer invest my energy in people who do not value our connection as much as I do. I refuse to be used to boost someone else’s ego. From now on, I will focus on building relationships that are genuine, authentic, and reciprocal. I desire Continue reading
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Happy First Day of Fall
(Disclaimer: I meant to post this yesterday but I crashed and slept for 15 hours. So here I am, posting the following day instead. I feel so much better after the long sleep.) I left work early because I just couldn’t push through anymore. I haven’t slept well in two days and my body finally Continue reading
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Coming Soon – A New Video
A glimpse of what I’ve been creating… a video woven with candlelight, whispers, and fall’s breath. Continue reading
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The Accuracy . . .
Let’s talk about philosophy, conspiracy theories, and serial killers! Continue reading
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Words, Connection, and My Mom’s Legacy
I made my first vlog — something completely new for me. I actually love speaking in public, so that’s not an issue at all. It’s just that, like many INFJs, I often feel that my words come across more clearly and beautifully on paper than they do out loud. Still, I wanted to challenge myself to Continue reading
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The Eyes of The INFJ
I’ve always been told I have wandering, expressive eyes when I talk. My eyes just… go places and really express. I see other INFJs do it too and I find that fascinating! It’s like our eyes are doing their own little storytelling while our mouths catch up. Honestly, it makes me feel a bit more Continue reading
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Saturday Evening with a Brush
Tonight’s paint and sip felt grounding. As I worked on the canvas, the colors came together in a way that surprised me. So vibrant, alive, and familiar. It reminds me of a rainy autumn night, the kind that makes you feel both reflective and present at the same time. There’s something about putting brush to Continue reading
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INFJs and the Sexy Magic of Extroverted Sensing
As an INFJ, I’ve spent most of my life living in my head observing, analyzing, imagining, and predicting. My dominant function, introverted intuition (Ni), allows me to see patterns, sense meaning, and anticipate possibilities. But it can also keep us tucked away from the vividness of the present. That’s where extroverted sensing (Se) comes in. Continue reading
